I find it hard to find someone like you1/10/2023 That way, the ego doesn’t have to be wrong it’s addicted to wanting to be right. All those reasons to not tell him how she felt were her mind’s attempt to guess, assume, and predict her way back to safety and security. She was trying to control the outcome by assuming he wasn’t interested. Our mind, the ego, fears the unknown as a way to keep us safe. We even forgo the joy that comes from venturing into the unknown, because we don’t want to get hurt. We become afraid of the unknown because it could hurt. These kinds of hurtful moments over years cause us to start forgoing love and freedom for safety and security. It could have been something as simple as asking your Mom for a hug, and her saying, “Oh honey I can’t right now, Mom is busy.” Or your Dad saying, “Why can’t you be more like your brother/sister?” Or your stepmom saying, “You’re doing it wrong.” Or a parent or stepparent being abusive or leaving. When we were little, there were many situations that happened to us that made us feel like our lives were out of control. What was happening to Neely, and I see this all the time with women (regardless of relationship status), is she’s forgotten how powerful she is as a woman. She started crying, and said through her tears, “Yes, what if he doesn’t feel the same way? Then I’ll feel I’ve lost everything.” It doesn’t actually mean it’s the right direction for your soul.Īfter she got done with all the heady logic, I said, “I understand you’re really scared.” He’s also told me he feels a little lost in life right now. He has already told me that he is still trying to get over his Ex. Don’t push it, men don’t like that.įriends have also said if a man is interested, he will make it known. So many of my friends have said I should let him come to me. Why do I have to lead in this? I don’t want to seem “too much” or too masculine. If he felt a romantic connection, shouldn’t he have made a move by now? Reasons, that honestly, sound very logical, like…. Her mind started churning and creating all kinds of reasons for why it didn’t make sense to tell him how she really felt. Keep reading even if you’re in a relationship because what I am about to reveal is super important.Ī couple of weeks ago I told Neely, “The only way to have clarity is to let him know how you feel.” She immediately got scared. Spending time with him made her feel so good, and yet she also knew she couldn’t keep it from him because it was eating her up inside. Neely was terrified of telling him because she didn’t want to lose the friendship. In the last couple of months, it’s become clear to her that she really likes him and wants more than just a friendship. Neely’s been seeing a guy over the last 6 months but just as friends. I was talking to my client the other day, let’s call her Neely.
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